ThinkPurple

We had a lot if issues last year at school when my DD was in 4th grade. We got her IEP down to spending most of her time in the resource room (special education) with an hour in gen ed, and specials. She's an elopement risk, and they refused 1:1 so I settled for this. 5th grade started a couple of weeks ago. Her resource teacher called to give me an update, and I asked about her schedule because DD had said she was spending her day in gen ed. Well the teacher said that she spends most of her day in gen ed, and when I pointed out what the IEP says, she said that if she enjoys her time and is okay, she is going to let her go into the gen ed for as long as she wants. I'm incredibly happy she is doing good in gen ed right now. It might not be that way in a couple of months (she usually does good at the beginning of the year, and then we have issues the rest of the year), but I do want her to get as much time there as possible. My gigantic issue is, there was no meeting. Her IEP hasn't been changed. They have changed her placement without the IEP team meeting and without my input. While I do think it is a good thing for her to be able to spend more time in gen ed, I don't think it is good that I now have to wonder if I can trust her teacher to keep me updated and in the loop without changing her placement or other IEP accomodations/modifications all willy nilly/ not following the IEP. We do have an IEP meeting coming up next month, which I had to call about because it is due September 30th. I like her teachers this year. I like the resource teacher. I just want to be able to trust them. How can I go about approaching this subject without sounding like a crazy person?

@Jenna, yes she had an FBA done earlier this year when her biggest issue was eloping. Now that her elopment options have been taken away, she's switched more towards aggression. We are supposed to be meeting on Friday to discuss her BIP and her "punishment options" as explained to me. We also have a meeting that day with TASN to get their input (they are authority on Autism in the state)

We had an MDR over two weeks ago for my daughter. There was no consensus, I was rushed through the meeting, and I didn't get to present all of the evidence that I had because the pricipal kept saying he had other meetings to get to and he wanted to rush it along. At the end of the meeting, I was told since there was no consensus it would go to the head of Special Education for the district who would figure it out. I did ask at the meeting if I don't disagree with the decision, do I file due process. Fast forward to today, after asking for over a week about a decision, and I was told that after speaking with the district's lawyer, the principal who was in the meeting would be the one making the decision. I was also told that they were going to say yes. That shocked me after the principal had voted no in the meeting itself, but I was told the lawyer had reminded them they needed to look at all evidence that was presented. My question is, during the phone call the school psych who called me said that we are going to have an IEP meeting on Friday and we would have to discuss discipline procedures for the behaviors my daughter has. My daughter has gotten angry and hit staff, which is what the MDR was for as she's been suspended 11 total days since January 9th for the behaviors. My understanding is, if they determine it is a manifestation of her disability, there shouldn't be discipline for it as that would be disciplining someone because of their disability. My understanding is they need to change the IEP/FBA to support her better and use positive reinforcement, not punishments. Am I wrong?