Thank you so much! This is very helpful. I am going to reread it when I'm not in middle of dinner prep, corralling etc., but wanted to let you know I appreciate it! I was having trouble articulating what you said because the sped person keeps trying to gaslight me and she's so belligerent that I spend most of the meetings trying not to lose it on her and that takes up a lot of mental space and energy so I'm not as productive as I should be. I also feel like this is someone you need to try get around by going in the back door... I usually don't do that but she's not reasonable. She was brought in by the principal who was actually asked to leave at the end of last year because he was so ridiculous. I'm not sure why people aren't seeing her ridiculousness. Ok, sorry for my divergence. Thanks again!