Lisa Lightner

Glad it worked out!

Reach out to your state's parent training center and your P&A agency, make them aware of this.

Thanks, we're going to look into this. I saw this in my fb feed a few times and couldn't go back and find it, so I really appreciate you putting it here.

I've seen it done, but it's also a hurdle to cross with the district. Your district likely has a BCBA and other behavioral staff. Egos get involved, and the schools often don't like outside people coming in and doing things differently. Or, the school is then admitting that your child needs these services, and they don't want to provide them. Most importantly--almost all negative behaviors are due to lack of skills or sensory needs or other needs not being met. Make sure all of that has been addressed in the IEP.

Yes, if you could give us more information. Also, please read your Procedural Safeguards booklet (the one they are required to give you once a year) so that you fully understand your rights and your options. Threatening to "get the state involved" isn't an option that I'm aware of--we have a state hotline, but they won't intervene in disputes. You have your dispute resolution options which will be handled by a state agency. And you can file a state compliance complaint. If they are not following the IEP, there are steps you can take. And make sure you're documenting everything. https://adayinourshoes.com/school-not-following-iep/

schools don't (and really shouldn't) hand out out-of-district placements to everyone who asks for one. You're going to have to prove that she cannot receive FAPE in her home school district. https://adayinourshoes.com/iep-private-placement/

In addition to what's been said here, 3rd grade is a time when behaviors explode. https://adayinourshoes.com/did-your-childs-school-problems-explode-in-3rd-grade-heres-why/

Retaliation can be hard to prove. There are some tips in here: https://adayinourshoes.com/retaliation-iep-parent-special-education/

Yes, everything must be done in writing and especially at these 5 points in the IEP process. https://adayinourshoes.com/iep-must-do-for-parents/

Here you go-- https://adayinourshoes.com/all-about-me-printable-worksheets/

Ok, since you said you just wanted to vent, I won't offer any tips. But, as August gets closer and you have questions, feel free to ask!

I tend to dress business professional "and up." I got rid of my suits a while ago. But I still usually wear skirts in warmer weather, nice pants in colder weather. I've had to attend several IEP meetings in the days leading up to the 2018 and 2023 Super Bowls, and everyone at the table was in Eagles gear lol. I LOVE my Eagles....but, I'm not wearing a jersey to an IEP meeting. Even if I feel like sacking someone.

Now is the time for you to read and use your Procedural Safeguards. You're going to have to prepare arguments that what they are offering is NOT FAPE for him, and why an IEP is.

Oops, forgot this link too: https://adayinourshoes.com/shortened-days-week-modified-schedule-iep-504/

What Carolyn said. And, please know that our knowledge and mindset shifts are changing. ABA is found to be very flawed. Just make sure you know exactly what you're getting into, and what ABA will look like for your child. https://adayinourshoes.com/school-fba-behavior-plan/

This exact scenario happens all the time and is a huge pet peeve of mine. The child on paper should match the child in front of you. Period. https://adayinourshoes.com/emotional-disturbance-category-iep-criteria-accommodations/ https://adayinourshoes.com/iep-disability-classification/

I agree to seek an attorney's input on this....because you'd be seeking comp ed, if they child went through an entire academic career without needed supports.

ANY change to FAPE requires prior written notice. You said "cdc" in your original post, so I'm guessing that you live near me. Make sure they provide you with a PWN/NOREP, and that you read and use your procedural safeguards. In our state (PA) if you do not sign it within 10 days, it automatically goes into effect. https://adayinourshoes.com/iep-prior-written-notice-pwn/

What Judi said. And, you can do both ESY and credit recovery over the summer. It doesn't have to be either/or. I think you really need to get with him, and develop a vision statement. Your IEP is the roadmap--the vision statement is the destination. You need to make sure that your IEP is pointing toward where he wants to go. No child should fail a class, imo. But, if he can reasonably be expected to pass chemistry with the right supports, then his IEP is insufficient. https://adayinourshoes.com/iep-vision-statement/

This will be listed in the school district's policy. And yes, they must have a written plan for RTI/MTSS.

Unless IDEA or your state were to change terms, I would stick with the language we've been given. Over the past 13 years, I've seen sooooo many teams do so many mental and verbal gymnastics....rather than say what needs to be said. If only they'd focused on meeting kids' needs, rather than trying to cook up new verbiage.....

I did a call with PILC yesterday. They asked me to share this.

What you're asking is bordering on asking us legal advice...which we don't allow here. It wouldn't be ethical for any of us to tell you how to make sure your group of advocates is safe. I have an attorney and a CPA who have guided me through establishing my business and protecting myself and the business, and my clients. I suggest you do the same.